Sunday, April 9

this is not a test

so here's the problem.

how does a husband react when an over bearing acquaintance is just that, "over-bearing", to his wife. my initial gut reaction is to let my wife deal with it exclusively, knowing that she can handle herself and is generally more diplomatic in those situations than myself.

...but then i think. fuck that asshole. he deserves any kind of wrath that i may rain down on him. i love our mutual friends that introduced this person to us and i know that they would not feel any remorse toward me if i did call his punk ass out, so why shouldn't i?

...but then i think. why should i even bother wasting any energy on this person, this situation. i don't feel that my wife has done anything wrong, why can't she just be herself and not have to explain herself or her actions to someone who is basically a perfect stranger. actually a totally imperfect stranger. so why do i even care?

...what am i saying? WHY DO I EVEN CARE? i care because this person has over stepped their boundaries and has decided to assert himself into our life. our life that he for some reason cares so much about.

...and then i think. how do i deal with him, this, a new situation that has made so many connected loving friends uncomfortable, all in agreement that there IS something wrong. but who can agree that something needs to be done. what needs to be done? does anything need to be done?

for now, i think what will i do the "next time" we see him, do i get in his face and let him know that he is an unwanted element to my life, or do i ignore it and wait for the "next time" something happens to puff my chest and get angry. essentiallly this situation sucks and like most situations like this, the victim is the one who is bothered most and forces themself to look inward asking "what did i do wrong"?

this is not a test.

you didn't do anything wrong baby, you were just being yourself.


dvsdvl...aka....timbodeen said...

It has taken me a while to figure out how to post on this site...I wanted to post on the Prince post, but I was not quite as smart as I am now, I have been drinking a lot of coffee lately. This post got me a little agitated like I needed to kick someones ass. Oh, wait, I couldn't kick anyones ass. I know I'll take my Outlaws and ski over the top of their sticks!!! That's what I'll do! Who is this guy? Better yet, who am I? Oh, by the way Prince kicks both Jackson and Bowie's ass! If I knew how to spell I might have used bigger words!

star detective said...

high desert sultan posted this in regard to a mutual friend's friend. This fellow is one degree of friendship separation but many degrees away from acceptable friendship behavior. The same posting may be found on the Sultan's blog...try the link. There are some great comments posted ther.